Sometimes I immediately know what I want to write. This is not one of those occasions. For more than a week now I have not been able
to decide what to write. Things are
happening and have happened, so it isn’t that there is no stimulus for
ideas. It is just me in a “stuck”
patch. My plan to “unstuck” myself (re.
writing at least) is this: keep writing until it turns into something readable.
Since my last blog I have had two DBT appointments and been
on holiday. I have a shed load of work
to do compiling and editing a book ready for publication as soon as
possible. I have to complete an online
maths course, and I am struggling to make sense of it (that’s an understatement
by the way – the bit I am on is gobbeldy-gook to me). This in turn has a serious impact on my future
plans – if I can’t get to grips with this bit of maths than I’ll have to do a
complete re-think. We are part way through
doing some serious decorating. My dog
smells and needs a major bath and groom.
The house is a mess, and I am in a “stuck” patch. Not good!
Disneyland (or the idea of it) is a place where people tend
to stand either in the “love it” or “hate it” camps – I don’t meet many people
who stand in the middle ground. I love
roller-coasters and theme parks so despite finding crowded places difficult I
am in the love it camp along with Jenny and her older brothers and
sisters. Jo is firmly in the hate it
camp – or he thought so anyway.
We have just returned from Disneyland Paris. Jo is a Disneyland convert. Despite his dislike of rides and theme parks
he actually had a really good time. I
even have a photo of him laughing and smiling on a ride! For me it excelled all my expectations. The rides, being built into a set became an
intense experience rather than just a ride.
The atmosphere exudes the Disney ideal of happy ever after and the
baddies getting their come-uppance. It
is like a bubble, or a parallel universe of fun. During the evening sound and light show I was
so mesmerised it was like being a child where Disney cartoons reflect real life
and you still expect there to be a happy ever after.
I think my current stuckness relates to that escape from
reality. I don’t want to be back! I know the Disney experience is not real
life. Real life is a slog. There are more tragedies, hardships,
disappointments and injustices than happy ever afters. Real life is hard and it hurts. It hurts so much I feel I can’t bear it. I have to do whatever works to ease that
distress. For me that is self-harm of
one sort or another.
This is changing however.
I have only just started my DBT adventure and already I have embryonic
skills that have helped me reduce self-harm without denying or repressing those
urges. Perhaps through DBT, with hard
work and support from the team I might be able to find my own bit of genuine “happy ever after”.
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